I was skimming the newspaper today and an article caught my eye. It was about abuse.....towards men. Yup, that's what I said. You might be puzzled, I mean, men can be pretty violent at times, right? And aren't they supposed to be the stronger ones, always seeking to expand their ego by using we, the fairer, helpless sex as punching bags? The answer is no. Unless you're a woman who has been living with women all her life or stuck at the bottom of a lake alone, you'll probably agree that your guy friends are just big, gentle monsters,
Women can get away with hitting a man in public because, hey, men are stronger and the woman is weaker, and the man probably deserved what was coming to him, right? And men are so stupid, they don't know wrong from right. That is total BULLSHIT!
Who the fuck are you to think that because you're a woman, you can do anything you want to a man? You demand respect from them, but you don't give them the respect they deserve. True, women were treated cruelly in the past, and that's why we have so may laws and organisations to protect women from being harmed by men, but why does that make women think that they are superior to men? A man in an abusive relationship has absolutely no where to turn. Tell his dudes, and they call him a faggot. Tell his family, and they ask him to suck it up and be a man. Tell the police, they blow him off because he's complaining about a woman. Where is he supposed to go?
There ARE groups set up for domestically abused men to seek help from, but how many men want to admit that they were battered by a woman? From birth, we are segregated by gender. In the nursery, boys get the blue blankets and girls get the pink. So when the boys grow up, wearing pink makes him 'gay'. Boys are supposed to give in to girls. So when the boys grow up, girls get their way and the boys have to 'let the lady win', because that's what 'being a man' is all about. Boys cannot look down on girls, because they can do anything a boy can do. So the girls look down on boys because they think the guys are too stupid to do better than them. Please, woman. You can have anything a guy does? You can have a dick? You can have a beard? Big muscles? No? Then stop thinking you're better than him!
Every human life is worth the same. That's what I believe, and that's what I tell my friends. No gender is ultimately better than the other. Both can be better than the other at different aspects, but at the end of the day, women need men to survive and vice versa. If we can just stop thinking that men and women are from different planets and start looking at each other as humans, the world would be a better place.
I'm not saying that women are any less abused and exploited. I'm sure a lot of attention has been given to that subject. Even the Malaysian Bar gives priority to a female victim compared to a male victim.
Domestic violence happens when a man or woman regularly hurts his/her spouse physically or verbally. i.e. beats or mentally tortures the other.
Domestic violence is rampant in all walks of (life) but is still not talked about openly. Statistics show that 1 out of every 6 women is battered by her husband or boyfriend. Even though domestic violence is a crime, most people don't think it is. They see it as a domestic or family affair. This makes it hard for battered women to look for help.
-TAKEN FROM THE MALAYSIAN BAR WEBSITE
They start off by including both men and women but eventually give priority to the women. Do you know how many men are being abused? 15% of all abuse cases involve male victims, but the actual number is much higher. You know why? Because most of society doesn't give a fuck. Go on, try slapping a man in public. Most onlookers will go like, "He probably deserved it, stupid guy". Well, how do YOU know? Abused people suffer in silence, men AND women, and the only way to get out is to take the first step and help themselves. Women have been secure in the knowledge that since young, they are protected. By WAO and women's rights. If you went to school in Malaysia, at one point all the girls would have been grouped together and told how to protect themselves from abuse. The guys? They get a free period in class. Why is it that their knowledge on that subject is less important? They are told to respect and cherish girls, but girls are told that guys want to take advantage of them. What a fucked up system we have.
How many men do you know who complain about their wives or girlfriends calling them degrading names. How many girls do you know who call their husbands or boyfriends 'pig', or 'idiot', or ask them to 'go die'? Do you know what verbal abuse is? Those three examples constitute verbal abuse if said in a malicious manner or unjokingly. If you don't know what is verbal abuse, go read THIS and educate yourself.
Abuse is not something to be taken lightly, no matter who it is inflicted upon. I chose to speak up about men because people tend to forget that men have emotions too, they're just generally not good at expressing how they feel, and that they can hurt pretty badly too, just like a woman. So ladies, love your men, and if you know any of your guy friends who are suffering or you suspect to be suffering the abuse of women, give them a big, warm hug and a shoulder to cry on. While you're doing that, Google a helpline and lodge a report. Help him take the first step to recovery.
To all my guy friends, thank you for not just looking at girls as girls, but as fellow human beings too. We girls know that you're just big, softies inside that macho exterior, and we love you guys for that.
To all women who have been abused by a man, just remember that not all men are the same. You just need to start trusting again :)
Bye Edibadie!
Lots of Love, Rox <3
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